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[authentic]

I recently found out that my wife's has BPD. The therapist we had been working with 4 years suggested it. It really explained a lot of the craziness that has been going on for the last 6 months. Really the last 4 years. My wife is currently in the meadows in a 45 day program for trauma. The therapist thought it would be a good idea. She has not told my wife what she thinks and my wife refuses to see her nor does she want me seeing her. She also switched therapists again recently and I was told the last therapist also was thinking along the lines of BPD. I am currently watching our 6 kids while my wife is away and trying to process the craziness of the last 6 months.  I also want to start working on my own healing and have been enjoying the book stop walking on eggshells.

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[once removed]

hey authentic, and

i remember when i first learned about BPD. what a revelation, huh?

do i have it right that the two of you were seeing a therapist together, your wife no longer wants either of you to see the therapist (and is now seeing another therapist?), but your wife has taken the advice and is in the trauma center? what happened with the therapist?

how long have the two of you been married? do you have children together? whats gone down in the past six months?

[pearlsw]

Hi authentic,

I'd like to join once removed in welcoming you.

Can you please tell us more about these last months? Is the Meadows a rehab facility or... .? What made these last months so extreme at home?

wishing you peace, pearl.