Hi Masterofart,
Oh my! That is a lot in a first year of marriage! How long were you together before you got married?
Check out the lessons to the right of the board.
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They will start to help answer this question of "how am I supposed to act?" In time you may want to dive in deeper and share examples and members can share ideas about what to do/not do for all kinds of situations.
So has the marriage counseling started? How did her getting diagnosed come about?
I am sorry for your pain related to the affairs and accusations! I can relate to how painful and disappointing it is when someone you love can be so difficult to be with.
wishing you peace, pearl.