Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
June 16, 2024, 02:38:23 AM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Kells76, Once Removed, Turkish
Senior Ambassadors: EyesUp, SinisterComplex
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
Skills we were never taught
98
A 3 Minute Lesson
on Ending Conflict
Communication Skills-
Don't Be Invalidating
Listen with Empathy -
A Powerful Life Skill
Setting Boundaries
and Setting Limits
Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: It feels like it is over  (Read 386 times)
seagrove
Fewer than 3 Posts
*
Offline Offline

What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 1


« on: October 23, 2018, 03:10:35 PM »

we have been married for nearly six years but dated 5 years prior.  he has been overly distant for the last few months.  no touching or loving or even kind words.  there's a tone in his voice when he speaks to me like he is disgusted.  he never uses that tone with anyone but me.  he is making plans to opt me out of any financial gain upon his death.  his health isn't awful but it's not good either.  I have no clue what I have done to trigger this behavior.  he says I am ungrateful because my car is dirty and I left lint in the dryer.  he says I need to start saving my money.  he says he pays all the bills and therefore he gets to make all the rules at the house.  I have a full time job but I sold my house and my car and most of my furniture to move in with him two years after we married.  he picked out all the furniture and paid for it.   I love this man but I'm at a loss as to how to bring him back around to civility at the least.  I don't know how to talk to him.  help?
Logged
RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING
This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members are welcomed to express frustration but must seek constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

Radcliff
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 3377


Fond memories, fella.


« Reply #1 on: October 23, 2018, 08:32:19 PM »

Welcome

I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling, but am glad you've found us.  We understand, and many members here have faced what you've described.  Can you tell us a little more about your situation?  Are things relatively steady, or are there good periods alternating with bad periods?

RC
Logged
RolandOfEld
******
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 767



« Reply #2 on: October 24, 2018, 12:19:30 AM »

Hi seagrove and joining Radcliff in welcoming you! Please do share more details about your situation as well as what finally brought you here.

I also suggest you start posting on other members' threads to gain context on your own.

Does he have the habit of threatening you like with the financial plan, and if yes does he ever follow through?

Sending you strength,
RolandOfEld
Logged

Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?

Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to:  

Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife



Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!