HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF THIS SITE

Our lives are complicated and confusing. The answers to the challenges we face will take time. Below is a roadmap to help members navigate the process. The top of this list is where we all start. In time we work our way down the list together.

Domestic Violence Safety Plan (.pdf)
Suicidal Ideation Safety Plan (.pdf)

Start Here
Read Before Posting
How Do I Navigate This Site
Introduce yourself!
Survivor to Thriver Program

Tools and Skills - Immediate Help
Communication Skills - Don't Be Invalidating
Don't "JADE" (justify, argue, defend, explain)
Communicate - S.E.T. (Support, Empathy and Truth)
A 3 minute Lesson on Ending Conflict
Setting Boundaries and Setting Limits
Escaping Conflict and the Karpman Drama Triangle
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What Am I Dealing With?
I think it's Borderline Personality Disorder, but how can I know?
DSM Definition: Borderline Personality Disorder
DSM Definition: Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Understanding BPD Behaviors
BEHAVIORS: Waif, Hermit, Queen, and Witch
BPD BEHAVIORS: Silent treatment
BEHAVIORS: Projection
BEHAVIORS: Splitting
BEHAVIORS: Extinction Bursts
Anosognosia and Getting a "Borderline" into Therapy
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Self Care:
Distress Tolerance - What to Do When We are Losing It
Triggering and Mindfulness and Wise Mind
Practicing meditation--how do you do it?
Radical Acceptance For Family Members

Understanding / Working on Us:
Emotional Blackmail: Fear, Obligation and Guilt (FOG)
Have Your Parents Put You at Risk for Psychopathology
Depression: Stop Being Tortured by Your Own Thoughts
Shame, a Powerful, Painful and Potentially Dangerous Emotion
Dealing with Enmeshment and Codependence
Dealing with ruminations
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Understanding and Healing the Damage of Growing Up in a BPD Environment
Have you had a "breakthrough crisis"?
Remembering - when is it therapeutic vs debilitating?
POLL: Have you experienced emotional incest?
Have Your Parents Put You at Risk for Psychopathology?
How Can We Forgive Ourselves?
Family systems--understanding the narcissistic family
Depression and Suicidal Ideation
VIDEO | Stop Caretaking the BPD or NPD - Margalis Fjelstad, Ph.D., LMFT



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