Does she know I am planning to leave? She is acting way to nice.

[Dazedconfused66]

She is acting way too nice. We haven't physically touched for quite a while and starting yesterday she began wanting to stand close to me or have her arm around me. She is saying nice things and acting sweet. I just decided that I really do need to leave before she hurts me physically or does more damage mentally. I started my safety plan and getting important documents out of the house. Why is she acting this way now? This is the part of her that made me want to stay for so long. I don't understand her behavior unless she knows or senses that I am detaching. Any thoughts? I already feel guilty. Is this just a ploy?

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[Sandb2015]

Dazedconfused,

Why ask why?  I've read your posts, I think it's fair to say you've been abused and you have thought this out before this post.

We can't know what they are thinking as much as anyone else, is that what we'd like?  Sometimes, yes, maybe, no way! We'd like to think it would make such a big difference in the other person if only they could know what we are thinking, feeling as clearly as we do, that's not happening.

I would say a slight change in behavior when there isn't physical abuse may mean something , I would also say a cycle is a circle and you are seeing a part of this circle that touches a meaningful place at this moment...

Please don't let the abuse that you have experienced cause some fleas of paranoia here, as many of us have experienced.  They don't have special powers but can be especially keen on our body language, moods and even slight facial expressions. They are "in-tune" to something else as we are "in-tune" something different.

[theuproar]

Please don't let the abuse that you have experienced cause some fleas of paranoia here, as many of us have experienced.  They don't have special powers but can be especially keen on our body language, moods and even slight facial expressions. They are "in-tune" to something else as we are "in-tune" something different.

Yes.  People with BPD are incredibly sensitive to slight body language and facial expressions. 

I'd go so far as to say this person has noticed the OPs slight change in behavior and is now (consciously or subconsciously) taking measures to prevent them from leaving.

[Dazedconfused66]

I should have known that it wouldn't last long. Less than 24 hours and I think that it is a new record for her. I breathed wrong in Walmart. Didn't pull the car out the way she wanted (although I am not sure how she wanted me to because she just kept saying "not that way" no matter which way I went). Guess I didn't have to worry about her acting too nice.