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Hi,
I didn't know, that my GF have BPD. But now, after revision, all marks was clear.
We had romantic relationship (my personality is calm, supportive, I can surrender my needs for other).
Everything was OK, she send me to golf, send me there some romantic messages and when I came back, she wasn't at home. She blocked me everywhere, also her family and her only one friend. After 6 years of relationship.
After two days, she send me a very bad email, about my personality, how jealous I am, how I'm manipulating her, how she can't go anywhere and how we lost all of our friends because of me. I didn't get it, because I was supportive and also, she was still crying, that we must do all thinks together. In whole relationship, as I found that she can scream about small thinks and also as I know her issues from childhood (sexual abuse).
She moved to her colleague and now, she is with him as rebound. She pushed me for no kids (she once scream a lot for abortion in 24th month of pregnancy and I agreed), stay in city and be somewhere, where is busy life (she was afraid of ghosts and demons). Now, she is living with guy in village, that guy have kid from previous marriage (once per two weeks) and they are direct peers from work.
I know all her tigers, but I underestimate one of them. She was crying for independence (as I solve all major issues for her) and once, she get stacked on icy road. She send me text message, so I answer her also by text. But she didn't call. Then, I found, her colleague called her and offer her to came (I was on the way too, but didn't tell her). So then she had probably new knight in shiny armor.
She is out now for two moths and I don't know what to do. Still emotional connected to her, but logic tells me to build barricade. I'm not sure, if she will call back in couple of months and also what to do then.
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She blocked me everywhere, also her family and her only one friend. After 6 years of relationship.
wow. that had to be a major shock.
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She is out now for two moths and I don't know what to do
in general, the best move is usually to let a rebound relationship play out. it has a low success rate, but your involvement could drive them together, or otherwise complicate things for you.
do the two of you speak?
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do the two of you speak?
No, we didn't. She have blocked me everywhere. She send me two emails, where I understand that I'm completely paint in black. I answered that and there is no communication for a month now. As I understand, she just jumped onto rebound to same track which she left at our home. Only difference is, she is now in village with kid from his previous marriage.
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this may be something of a "waiting game", if thats what youre prepared to do.
have you taken some time to review the lessons and tools here? youre going to need them when/if you hear from her.
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