Hi EJS and welcome to the board!  
You certainly have a lot going on.  I am sorry to hear about the cancer.  How are you doing?
You will definitely get support from us  
What sort of pointers do you need?  Can you give us a specific situation so we have some info to work with?  I don't want to hit you with a bunch of stuff that may not apply.
In the meantime, I hope you settle in, read and jump into other threads.  It really is the best way to build support and learn.
