Help - I've been dealing with conflict and rage from D40 for 25 years - Help

[wolfman]

I think I finally figured out what is wrong with my 40 year old daughter.  For the past 25 years I've been dealing with conflict and rage with her.  I think her homosexuality triggered this behavior.  I can't talk to her anymore because it's always my fault.  All the bad choices she has made are my faul.  Help me because I love her but at the same time I hate her.  There's is no gray area it's just black and white.  My sister telks me that she's a bully towards me.  Help

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Only Human]

Hello wolfman

I am so sorry you've had to find us but I'm glad you did, that you have some insight to what may be going on with your daughter. I'm sorry to hear you've been struggling for so long with her behavior. You must be exhausted.

I want you to know there is hope and you've come to the right place to learn tools and gain knowledge about BPD. A good place to begin is the thread pinned to the top of this board, HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF THIS SITE. It's got many of our best articles with links to more - I'm sure you'll find something there you can relate to, you are not alone.

What are the behaviors that led you to suspect BPD? Do you agree with your sister that your daughter is a bully to you?

I look forward to getting to know you and how we can best advise you.

~ OH

[wendydarling]

Hi wolfman

I join Only Human welcoming you to the forum and hope you stay with us for support as you learn about BPD and how you can help yourself and reduce the conflict in your relationship.

I highly recommend the book Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

I'm glad you found us wolfman and look forward to getting to know you.

WDx

[livednlearned]

Hi wolfman,

Welcome and hello 

Does your D40 live with you?

Your sister thinks D40 is a bully. What are some things she does to make your sister think that?

LnL

[FaithHopeLove]

Hello Wolfman
I join the others in welcoming you to the group and assuring you that you have come to the right place for help and support. I look forward to hearing more about your daughter.