The post trip fallout began immediately...

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Well, I have enjoyed several weeks of quiet with my uBPDw & kids gone visiting family. It was a great time to recharge, my very own fortress of solitude! Sadly, that has all come to an end.

Although I was hopeful some time apart would help settle things down, I was wrong. I had dinner ready when they got home last night, she refused to even sit down to eat as a family.

Instead of getting drawn into a fight over eating with us, I tried to put SET to work and show support by simply saying, "Well, I am glad you made it home safely." (Long road trip to visit family.) That did nothing to move the needle; she barely spoke all night.

Before the trip she told me her preference was to never come back, I find myself wondering why she did...

This morning, I am finding myself incredibly frustrated. I do not want to get drawn into the typical cycle but I also cannot live with someone that cannot communicate on the most basic level. Do I have a conversation about not joining us to eat? Do I ask for her explanation? Will that just shame her and make things worse?

Any thoughts?

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is she angry at you? if so, what about?