What do you do when you need space?

[Depression = 72% of members]

After numerous silent treatment punishments over the last 2 yrs, I’ve decided that this one was extremely selfish on her part (for all kinds of reasons). When she comes back, how do you suggest I ask for some space to heal? To reevaluate our relationship?

We were supposed to move in together over the next 6 months and I realize her rages are too often. Its one thing if she willingly acknowledges the pattern and that they are increasing but she doesn’t. So then I wonder how it can better if she doesn’t acknowledge the significant pattern tahat exists. i’m miserable in this toxic selfish mess of hers.

Its the inpredictability that hurts the most.  Its not healthy.

[Lifeinthefastlane]

After numerous silent treatment punishments over the last 2 yrs, I’ve decided that this one was extremely selfish on her part (for all kinds of reasons). When she comes back, how do you suggest I ask for some space to heal? To reevaluate our relationship?

We were supposed to move in together over the next 6 months and I realize her rages are too often. Its one thing if she willingly acknowledges the pattern and that they are increasing but she doesn’t. So then I wonder how it can better if she doesn’t acknowledge the significant pattern tahat exists. i’m miserable in this toxic selfish mess of hers.

Its the inpredictability that hurts the most.  Its not healthy.

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[Ozzie101]

The unpredictability can be really hard to deal with. And speaking from experience, living in a house with that and the rages is not exactly fun and games.

Do you know what you want to happen in the relationship? Before getting into a discussion about it with her, it would help if you know what you want.