I have been in a relationship

[Darfman]

I have been in a relationship with someone  for 11 months and she was just diagnosed with BPD.
I have told her about my past live and the people  that were in it ,and she  has fixated  on one woman  who I have not seen in 20 + years ,saying that I should go and live with her ,I have repeatedly  tried to reassure  her that she is the one I love and want to be with .to no avail,following  the the book "the everything  guide to bpd " by dolecki ,phdc.
 I need help ,I'm lost and in love with this woman .

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[pursuingJoy]

Hi Darfman!  welcome to bpdfamily and thanks for sharing a bit of your story!

Are you able to identify something that prompted this reaction in her? How did her reaction make you feel?

pj