Up until yesterday, I have been in my sister's trust & I love her so very much & have diligently tried to protect this status with her. My sister, 51 yrs. old, on disability, has health issues (RA & mild Chiari Malformation (yet to be seen by a specialist), an addictive personality- opiods,(recovered alcoholic), etc., has been diagnosed with BPD (untreated so far except for mood stabilizing medication). She obsesses over her health & no matter what her doctors say, she doesn't trust that they believe her & is belligerent & will not take any advice from them. She considers every ailment that resembles the way she feels or investigates, to be her latest health condition. This all has escalated over the past three years. She has "split"from our brother & mom but is "mostly over" her issues with mom & is constantly having crisis' with her adult children. She has had much trauma throughout her life. Back to the Opiod issue: I am noticing a pattern that she becomes very despondent, angry, & hopeless just before she goes to her pain doc. I am suspecting that somehow, she is not fully honest with her pain doc. & she is running out of her pills earlier than she should. I can't talk with her mental health & medical Dr's because I don't have consent & feel that they cannot properly treat her without full knowledge of the big picture.
OK, so this paints a sad & ugly picture but, of course, she also has a very caring, funny, generous personality. She is my enigma & again, I say I love my little sister.
I am at the end of my ability to know what to say or do for her. I got very frustrated & very direct with her more than in the past the other day. Her behavior was over the top & I wasn't feeling well & now, for the first time, she will not answer my calls. I have known that this may happen some day & have spoken with my counselors about her & my fear that she will do harm to herself. (She cries & says that she can't live like this anymore.) I honestly don't know how to have relationship with her anymore as she causes me so much stress & I also have RA & other health issues & need to minimize & manage my stress. I find myself in the middle of the family trying to keep peace & give support. Do I try to make contact with her or wait until she is ready to talk again? Any helpful advice or sharing of experience with this would be much appreciated.
