Mod note: This post was split from the following thread as it merited its own discussion: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=343084.0so shes seeking you out as a confidant, which is mighty hurtful to you, and, frankly, not appropriate. thats what it means to her to be friends, to maintain that connection, but it wasnt wrong of you to say whoa, hey, this is outside of what im willing to do or be.This is an interesting point you make. My now no-contact for 5 weeks gf (quit trying to reach out to her, it's all in my thread, and she hasn't reached out to me) basically stopped having sex with me in June, stopped coming over to my place, stopped inviting me over to her place, stopped trying to get together in the day or on weekends, but continued with lot's of calls and texts to support her in her decade long battles with her ex-h. After school started and her son was no longer home during the day, she still made no effort to connect in any meaningful way, and left me out of events and communications by text became perfunctory and stilted. Yet, every now and then she'd say I love you and we'd get together. And I took every call, responded immediately to every text.
This of course was very hurtful to me, and had me spending many nights wondering what in the world was going on. I felt like I was being strung along, and when I asked about why she'd go days without replying to me she'd say she's 'busy'.
I believe that's what she was doing to me, and the more I think about it the more angry I get. It's been painful, I've lost many nights sleep over it.
