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Author Topic: I'm going no contact to win my ex girlfriend back should please she needs help  (Read 499 times)
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« on: March 06, 2020, 02:27:16 AM »

Girl I dated she was distant I think she still had feeling for her ex before we started dating she told me he cheated on her and left her for another women I have her space reminded her I cared also I found out she was talking to her ex behind my back so I called her I let her no I was not a mu
 we didn't break up but then I panic because she was still distant I so I made her jealous with another girl who likes me I got the other girl to write on my Facebook I let my girlfriend we were still together at the time I only done it to get her attenson I told her because she was distant I got scared because I thought she was trying to find somelse anyway we went back to being friends I gave her a weeks space started talking she invited me to go see her I did I asked if we could get back together but she said she wanted to see how we got on as friends then she asked me to help her move house she said her ex was helping her I still agreed to help but she didn't call me to her she got her pregnet friend to help her instead I am a ex boxer and many her ex bf was scared incase I attack him anyway she said she was with him for 5 years she shared a photo on Facebook it quoted no matter who much you love some and and are good them they can and will turn their back on you

Just I not sure if that was aimed at me or her ex she told me when he cheated and left her he took his no girlfriend to Disneyland somewhere she would love to go then his new gf left him and he called her for comfort that sounds a little bit like a narcsisstic I mean her broke her heart took his new gf to a place she's would love to go and then calls her when she left him and then probably got her to get her pregnet friend to help lift heavy future just that doesn't sound like a man in my opinion  sounds like a inscure little boy I mean I have broke a girl's heart before but I left because I didn't feel the same she got a new bf she made an appemt to get me back but I wasn't going to use her just to make me feel wanted and I will admitt I'm jealous of ex for 1 thing and one thing only he got to met her before me because I know I am better I have been throught a family betrayal my half brother on my mother side of the family broke into my father's house bullied me and tryed to stab me he is my big brother in a way I'm glad that happened because he made me into a man I was scared of him if I can stand up to him I can face anyone I use to be scared of him all my life he's a boxer too

And I'm not worried about gett hurt because I love myself I know the problem with love is that people have seen to many movies and people see love like I only love you if I can have you and that is postive thing is ppl feel lonely because their not doing what they want with their life I am chasing my dreams and to love you have to be happy were you are in life and my ex she asked me if I could change her last time we had contact I told her I can help her but I can't fix her that's another thing people don't get you can not expect a person even if you do love them to fix you or you to fix them that's crazy I think maby some guy my ex was with before me told her that she had been and out mental hospital since she was 16 she was mentally physically abused by her dad and her mom is and still his separated from her father but her mom has bipolar so does she my ex and should I tell her what I think about love about loving yourself I'm not sure if she can love herself fully

I have done wrong in my life I'm not perfect but I am a good man just I wish she met me before she met him or met us both at the same time I mean what type of man does that to someone mentally ill she is a little bit weak minded and seems to be easly manipulated I mean u break a girl's heart u break all ties so she can get over you and met a guy that is right for her not cheat on her a girl who has she harms lots of scars down her arm tried to kill herself and then dump her and get a new girl then take ur new gf to her dream location and rub it in her face and then call her when she ur new girl leaves u talking about how hurt u are I mean that guy just sounds pafectic in my point of view

When I was with the girl she tried to kill herself and I was there at the hospital then she told me about her dad abusing her and her fromer best friend raping her in her home and when we first got together she said she loved me and to have my baby's and wanted to marry me and after a month she cut herself showed me the scars it was bad so I know I bounded with her and I fk up with making her jealous with that other girl I overthink it to much and I thought she was going to get back with her ex only for him to hurt her I realized it pushed her away I don't know what I was thinking I got her flowers left them outside her door



Also when we where together I treated her good getting her little gifts like cake and sweets also on I got her a neckless on Xmas she got me a very nice t shirt it wasn't cheap

But with women if you don't care they come back if you act like you don't give a PLEASE READ and play it cool I only done all those nice things because of her mental illness and to make her feel wanted but she told me she backs off when I guy is too nice to her I don't think she understands herself or know what she wants

Also if we do get back togher think we would be able to take it slow Al admit I fell for her a bit but talking about marriage and kids way too soon I would like that but I'm still really getting to know her girl has serious problems I can understand if she did want her ex back she is very very shy and 5 years she is comfortable around him plus she told me a few lie like her best friend told me their where friends throught school then told me she met her in a mental hospital I don't judge I just try to understand the thinks she's weird I think she is special I just wish she would have respect for herself I mean if she would put up with a guy doing that to who her would she put up with a guy hitting her I don't like the way she has been treated in relanships in a way she is almost as sad as her ex
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« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2020, 05:42:45 AM »

hi Jayjayjay and Welcome

thanks for giving us a lot of the history here.

was her disinviting you from helping her move the last time you spoke?
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