The life.has been sucked out of me

[DisheartenedGuy]

I think I want out, but I cant get out.  I love her so much -- though partly due to my need to be a caretaker, my desire to rescue her or fix her.  It keeps.getting worse, as I try harder and harder to make her happy.  Lately that has meant spending money on her, fixing her car, paying her bills, buying her groceries, etc. She is always a victim. Always eliciting my pity. Always switching doctors and missing appointments. Always behind on her bills.  Our sex life is wonderful, she is a sex addict and never says no to me, which is partly what keeps me around.  But, I recently learned that she sleeps with other people -- very kinky sex -- and lies to me about it.  I feel like she lies more often than she tells the truth. All this pain, yet I love her. I'm afraid to let go. I've hoped for years that one day she will change, but I know she won't.

Just hoping to find some support on here, from men and women who might be able to relate. I want to feel less alone. I. I. My 40s. She is mid 30s.

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you have support here, DisheartenedGuy.

it sounds like theres a lot going on, a great deal weighing on you.

how long have the two of you been together, and how long have these problems been going on?

do the two of you live together? that can make splitting a pretty overwhelming prospect.