Ex girlfriend who suffers from BPD told me she stop talking her medication help

[Jayjayjay]

 she also has biplolar disorder Her dad died she told me over Facebook that he took his own life she called a few hours ago she said that the police think it could be murder and that her mum said she's glad he's dead her mum has bipolar so does she and she said her mum's not been a big help she told me she stop taking her medication I'm worried about her she told me awhile ago when she stops taking her meds she ends up back in a mental hospital and she said she not going back and she moved house said she has a new doctor and cpn

She told me when we were boyfriend and girlfriend that mentally pyhsically abused her growing up then she told me that he sexually abused her too she said there were some good times so she didn't hate him altogether he use to send her very nasty messages horrible things he texted her and what she's told me her mum is not helping just made it a bit wrose she never really told me much about her mum she also told me she said to her mum how can you be happy that my dad is dead you married him so you must have loved him back then and her mum's kinda making out she had no choice to marry her father because she got pregnant she never really told me much about her mum till now

I still love her she asked if she could call me tomorrow I said yes I'm just worried because she stop taking her medication and when I was her man she self harmed it was bad and I'm thinking about mailing her friends because her friend is a mental health nurse but at the same time I don't want to make my ex feel paranoid thinking I'm talking about her behind her back my ex said didn't say she was keeping a secret there was one time when she was talking to me and she said she was igorung her friend and she asked me to promise if her friend asked me if I spoke to her to say know I promised and if her friend did ask I would have kept my promise

Ps she told me she can't take her meds because she has been off them said it's because of the withdraw symptoms I understand she sick of her medication but she said she ends up back in a mental hospital ward and she doesn't want to got back she said she was back on her feet but then her father died and now she's off her meds

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[truthbeknown]

This is a tough situation.  I went out with someone where I found out after 6 months that she was on antidepressents (and maybe other stuff).  She lied about it due to shame and told me she was only on for 1 year.  It was really 10.   Anyway, she got off her meds and apparently she was bi polar and she got very promiscuous after stopping the meds.   I didn't find out until later after she went through a devaluing stage.   Anyway, it can be tough.   So someone with that many challenges needs care and when they deny that it makes it hard on any of their loved ones- romantic or not. 

I hope she gets the help she needs and perhaps you can take a step back and ask yourself what you want to do ? do you want to be in the friend mode ?  or something else?  it might be helpful for you to get professional advise on this situation because we can only offer our stories and support here but when you are dealing with someone who needs meds its a whole different level and its a tough call.

My ex wife was suicidal after we divorced and I could have taken the kids away and gotten custody. I didn't because I was consumed with fear that she would take her life and my kids would have no mom.   The price I paid for not taking custody and trying to protect someone with mental disease now means that my kids are alienated away from me and she took every opportunity to spew hate my way even though I thought I was doing the right thing or the kind thing in trying to keep her from taking her life.  This is why I say get some outside the forum help on this perhaps because these situations can come back to haunt us if we are too empathetic for the other person and don't protect ourselves.