Hello and welcome
AJDW33 With my daughter it is emails...loong ones. I just got another one yesterday...my "Mothers' Day present.
'" This has been going on for so many years that I don't even have to read them to know the story line. She really needs new material!
I am being flippant. Her words hurt...have always hurt. I used to react...respond to her messages point-by-point. What a losing battle that was! It just added fuel to her fire...and mine. Of course my rebuttal was followed by another from her and it would go on and on.
There is so much to learn, ALDW33, in how to better deal with these troubled souls who share our lives. One gem for me was learning not to J-A-D-E. That is...don't Justify/Argue/Deny/Explain when in a heated communication with them. For sure not an easy thing to do when one is being verbally attacked. It was obvious that there was no way I could change her...but...I could change me.
There is so much information on this website with links to more. Yes, time-consuming, but so rewarding when you hit upon something that works...makes a difference.
Hope you keep sharing as you continue on in this difficult journey with your son.
Huat