After 40 years it got to be too much to handle.
Hey mjlynn, Welcome! I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. Right, it wears you down over time, which is why I say that most BPD relationships are not built to last. You must be strong to have hung in there so long! Fill us in a little on your situation, when you get a chance. What was the straw that broke the camel's back? How did you figure out that your spouse has BPD? How are you holding up? How did you find the courage to end things after a long marriage?
LuckyJim