Hello all
I want to try to keep this brief as I have a tendency to write an awful lot without realising. However, there is some more info about this on my introductory thread in one of the replies if you need more context.
Basically, I feel my partner's approach to friendships with certain females is too intense and encroaches on our relationship. At times he acknowledges this and others he backtracks and says I am the problem and never want him to speak with anybody (despite having actively encouraged him to reach out and be more sociable). From. What I can tell this is to do with his BPD and seeking approval from others by being very full on in his approach.
It has caused some seriously sticky issues in the past where these girls have got the wrong impression, yet he doesn't seem to want to step back and do things differently when it is happening in the present and is very hostile when I bring things up.
Any advice on how to get through to him on this or how to set boundaries without him going into full on defensive mode would be appreciated. I'm kind of at the end of my tether with this. If there are people on here with BPD who have/had similar approaches and learned how to regulate it a bit more that would also be great to hear.
