Help finding specialist for child

[insellebenfamili]

SEARCHING FOR A BPD SPECIALIST in MD/DC/VA/DE AREA.

My daughter has all the traits of BPD. She desperately needs help understanding what it is, why she feels the way she does and how to manage. I have not found anyone in 3 years that has helped. She is in a DBT program currently however, i am not impressed with the therapist.  ALL recommendations appreciated. Bonus if any take UnitedHealth. Thank you

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Welcome.
 I will refer you to a recent post started by Carnations , asking for similar help:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=347207.0

This may start you in the right direction.  Write here as often as you need.

[Naughty Nibbler]

Hi insellebenfamili:

How old is your daughter?  Is her DBT therapy individual or in a group?  Does she get any assignments to work on various DBT skills between sessions?

Do you have an understanding of what DBT skills are?  It can be helpful to gain a basic understanding of DBT yourself.  You can buy a DBT workbook, authored by Marsha Linehan from Amazon or elsewhere.

This Website:  https://www.therapistaid.com/   has some worksheets you can access for free.

One focus of DBT is mindfulness skills.  A great app for mindfulness tools is Insight Timer.  There is a lot available for free and they have live presentations that are free.  There is an opportunity to donate to the presenters, but not necessary.  Insight Timer, also, has premium features, with a lot of great audio courses on various topics and on coping skills.  There is a lot to choose from.  I don't mean to sound like an advertisement for Insight Timer, but they have a lot to offer for free and their premium version is a modest amount.
There are some online DBT opportunities.  I tend to think that with DBT, it isn't a matter of "one & done".  It involves learning and practicing certain skills.  The more you practice, the more various skills can help. One on one DBT therapy might need to be enhanced in some way, either coaching from home, some group interaction with others learning DBT, etc.

Just throwing out some ideas.  What I'm trying to say is that you need to approach DBT from various angles and opportunities.  There is no magic or magic instructor (although some might be a better fit than others).  A person gets out of it what they put into it.  The more ways you approach it, offer it, etc. the more benefit it can offer.

The skills have to become a reinforced habit.  If the student isn't ready & open to learn the skills, then there isn't much benefit.