She began withholding sex claiming she was losing herself

[Voudou]

My partner and I have been together just over a year. Like many posts I have read, we had a great first couple of months. Sex was great, we were happy, she talked about marriage. I admit I was taken aback but I really fell for her. It wasn't long after that she began withholding sex claiming she was losing herself in our relationship. She began becoming critical of every little thing and I was left feeling that I could do nothing right. Then she began with a cycle of breakups. Most of which would last just a few days, some longer and this last one was three months. I cannot explain why I keep coming back. I do love this girl and I cannot see leaving her.

Now, to my good fortune (maybe?), she is diagnosed and has been in therapy for a few moths now. This most recent reconciliation saw slight improvement but we are beginning to slide backward. She says she cannot feel intimate again until we have resolved our issues. She still takes minor issues and makes them into huge problems. She constantly says I have said things which are critical of her and I for the life of me cannot remember saying them. She impulsively spends money. She cannot leave things go and episodes can last hour and sometimes into the next day, long after I thought we had reached resolution.  

I have read both negative and positive stories here and am doing my best to try and learn things that will help me. I have been beaten down, my esteem is low and I am worn. I keep plugging away.

Thank you for this board and thank you for sharing your stories. I am finding everything so informative.

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[formflier]

I'm so glad you found us. 

It's also usually a good thing to have a diagnosis and therapy.

Now, to my good fortune (maybe?), she is diagnosed and has been in therapy for a few moths now.  .

Are you involved in this at all?

What does your support system look like?

I encourage you to read the article below and then let us know what you think of it.

https://www.bpdfamily.com/content/what-does-it-take-be-relationship

Best,

FF