Initial symptoms of BPD

[docp]

What symptoms did you guys notice in hindsight for your significant other prior to diagnosis of borderline personality disorder?

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[Melissinde]

The severe mood swings, the idealization/devaluation cicles (I love you/I hate you) though I didn't have the words for it at the time. It's like I was dating 2 completely different people, one was the most affectionate angel of love, the other a cold-hearted unempathetic man full of hate. So, so disturbing when I had absolutely no knowledge of personality disorders!

[HopelessBroken]

Consistent accusations of me looking at/flirting with/sleeping with other men.
I hate you, you ruined my life type outbursts over issues most relationships wouldn’t be phased by, when I was his soulmate earlier that day.
Anger outbursts followed by breaking up with me numerous times and going to/sleeping with other women immediately.
Risky behavior such as driving drunk.
Impulsiveness.
Overspending.
Hyper sexuality.
Suicide threats.
Black and white thinking, everything was  the best ever or completely horrible.
Extremely dishonest.
Very insecure, having a void that absolutely no one could fill, nothing was ever enough.
Excessive phone calls/texting.

I could keep going but this is probably enough.