Resources for Children (still in childhood) to understand parent with BPD?

[etoile]

Sorry if this is pinned somewhere already.  There is a lot of information here on this site and it is daunting.

I see lots of great resources for adult children of a parent with BPD.  But can someone point me to resources for teenage children of a parent with BPD?  Something I could give them to read so that they can understand what is going on with their stepmother?

Forgive me as we have only recently found a name to ascribe to the erratic behavior.  I have made sure the children are safe, and I am reinforcing to them that it’s not their fault, they are not to blame, and don’t take anything personally.  But I want to empower them with some knowledge they can read.  Youngest is age 13.  Thank you.

[PearlsBefore]

Unfortunately there's pretty much a huge gap - there are a few children's picture-books (Millie the Cat has BPD, Alex's Umbrella, etc)...but then nothing I've found for older children. Replying to the thread though because I'd love to get updates if someone has found something.

[etoile]

I’ll even take suggestions for younger kids at this point.  I just want to empower my kids with knowledge.  I think it will help them not get beaten down by the situation.

[PearlsBefore]

Well https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=345614.0 is my personal favorite for young children although "The Weather House" is also pretty good, my lesser review of https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56239.0 is in that thread. There are a couple others, Millie the Cat has BPD comes to mind (but very, very simplistic, for a 3-year old), I can't remember the titles of them all.

There are also books for children at risk of BPD themselves, like The Boy With the Big, Big Feelings - but I get the gist those are not really the sort for which you're looking.

[notmarypoppins]

I’ve been looking for these as well, and have asked therapists and social workers, and have so far come up empty handed. My partner and I are fostering my 13yo SIL, whose mom has BPD. The advice I got here was to let a therapist explain the illness, which is good advice, but 13yo still asks us a lot of questions. Was in a therapy session with my 13yo SIL recently where her therapist said to her that her mom’s mental illness makes it hard for her to put her kids’ needs first, which seemed like a satisfactory description for 13yo.