What does it cost you ?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Sorry I couldn’t finish adding to my last post ... I want to know what does it  personally cost you  to interact with your pwBPD that you have been trying to detach from. Have there been any benefits ?

[Purplerain23]

Sorry I couldn’t finish adding to my last post ... I want to know what does it  personally cost you  to interact with your pwBPD that you have been trying to detach from. Have there been any benefits ?

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Purplerain, In a sense, my Ex made it easier for me to detach because, after our separation, she kept up a relentless barrage of demeaning attacks and blame.  So the price was high to interact, which caused me to keep contact to a minimum (we have kids together, so NC was not an option).  Everyone's situation is a little different, of course, but I would say that in my case interactions were more of a liability than a benefit, if that helps you!

LuckyJim

[Georgia98]

I guess I have the same question. But I think about it a lot, and I've come to the conclusion that interacting, communicating, etc. with my ex essentially means abandoning myself. It costs me my self worth and energy when I give myself over to trying to be there for a person who can't give that back. I logically understand that for me, there's no benefit to either party to have any communication, but there's a lot of days when I try to rationalize it.