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[All Has ben lost]

why would the topic...i should leave... be archived and... it seems... unavailable... kinda messed up...

[All Has ben lost]

i posted... no replies... well... what should i expect... doesnt feel like anyone can care...  i feel stuck and help any help is far away...

[GaGrl]

I am sorry your previous post did not get a reply. You are posting in Detaching -- has your relationship completely ended? Did you end it, or did your partner? What were the biggest issues that led to the end?

[Skip]

I'm not sure anyone knows how to answer your question about an archived thread. We generally archive posts that are 7 years or older with the exception of workshops and technical/mediacl threads.  

Are you looking for this 7 year old post:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=218207.msg12379747#msg12379747

[B53]

I understand how you are feeling, as I felt that way too when I wrote my first few posts. I saw that many people read it, but no one really acknowledged what I wrote. I was in a lot of pain and already felt so unimportant and that just reaffirmed it. I have been on here awhile now and I now understand why so many read what is written, but don’t respond.  First of all many people are new to this and they are just coming to terms with what they have been through. They just keep reading posts that piece together their life and experiences. It can be overwhelming to say the least. It’s comforting and shocking to find out that you’re not alone. These people are not yet ready to post and if they do, they are hanging on by a thread and don’t have much to give back yet. Then there are people like me who understand some posts, but don’t always feel qualified to offer help or my experience was different. My ex didn’t cheat, so as I feel that would be devastating, I haven’t actually felt how devastating it can be. I let people who know that pain respond. Then as a new poster, it seemed like I had something I wanted to add all the time, I was revved up and wanted any opportunity to vent with others. I didn’t want to be seen on every post, so I picked the ones that hit home the most. I have been on here nine months now and I am doing so much better and I don’t think I would be where I am without this site. Now I come on here every few days and read posts and if I think my story could possibly help someone then I write. I try to pay it forward, like I am trying to do now.

Don’t leave, the people here really do care. I try sometimes and I notice that the advisors here do try to greet new people. It’s sad to say, but there are a lot of people in need here and people might be spread thin. Please write again and continue to tell your story. You have nothing to loose and so much to gain!