Two months out

[marv1995]

Well, it's been about two months post breakup with my exwBPD and we haven't spoken except for a very brief text conversation that consisted of about 6 messages back and forth. He's gone. Moved across the country for school. I have a job interview with my dream university in my dream city on Friday. This is a place I wanted to move to before I met him. We then visited together and planned on living there together. My therapist said she's really glad I haven't given up on that dream of living there despite the fact that him and I aren't together anymore. I have days that I miss him. I had a moment of weakness and looked at his social media yesterday. I almost beat myself up over it and then realized one moment of weakness doesn't erase all of the progress I've made. I am going to keep moving forward. Breaking a trauma bond is HARD. I know I still have a long way to go, but I'm doing way better than I was and I look forward to the day that I'm completely healed. I hope he's doing well and finding himself, I know he told me he needed to do that (which he does need to find himself). To make a long story short, I'm posting this to show you that it DOES get better. I posted in this group almost two months ago about how upset and hurt I was and how much I missed him, and now I can reflect back on that and see how much progress I have made.

[Dad50]

Yeah, you are giving us hope! I am hoping to go a whole day tomorrow no contact. God it is hard.

[B53]

I’m seven months NC. I think the worst is behind me. No more ruminating, tears have dried up and I have put back on most of the weight I lost (10lbs). I still think of him, once or twice a day,  but it comes and goes quickly. I’m thinking about my future and can visualize being with someone truly kind and caring. It wasn’t easy, two steps forward, one step back.

You can do it! If you fall, get up and try again. There is always tomorrow!

Best of luck to you all.

[Janie Starks]

To make a long story short, I'm posting this to show you that it DOES get better. I posted in this group almost two months ago about how upset and hurt I was and how much I missed him, and now I can reflect back on that and see how much progress I have made.

Thank you for sharing Marv, this really gives me hope