DBT Workbooks

[Hope4Joy]

I am in a position where purchasing something like a DBT workbook for us to do together might be agreed to (as opposed to going to therapy). Plan is explaining that we are both emotionally immature and this type of therapy should help us. How do I say that without much offense? Is there such a DBT workbook, especially with no mention of BPD?

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[mitten]

I don't know of any DBT workbooks that don't mention BPD... I own the Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook, but that is definitely centered around the caretaker.  Anyway, the approach you mentioned is interesting.  I asked my wife if she'd ever consider talking to someone about her childhood trauma / ongoing anxiety (after she mentioned she has anxiety a lot).  And she quickly shut it down and said she doesn't like to talk about her feelings so she would never go.  This workbook idea is interesting as an alternative. 

[zondolit]

Alan Fruzzetti's book The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy & Validation is very good (and very challenging) and he never mentions BPD.

Unfortunately the cover of my copy advertises Marsha Linehan, who wrote the Foreward, as the author of several books on BPD. . . Someone should tell the publisher to remove all references to BPD from the cover and author note!

I was hoping to suggest working through the book together with my uBPD husband but ended up reading it alone.

[mitten]

Alan Fruzzetti's book The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy & Validation is very good (and very challenging) and he never mentions BPD.

Unfortunately the cover of my copy advertises Marsha Linehan, who wrote the Foreward, as the author of several books on BPD. . . Someone should tell the publisher to remove all references to BPD from the cover and author note!

I was hoping to suggest working through the book together with my uBPD husband but ended up reading it alone.

I have the audiobook version... but just a thought, I wonder if the paperback and hard cover have different covers that might not mention Marsha Linehan? 

[Hope4Joy]

I have listened to a good bit of The High Conflict Couple myself. Not a bad idea to use it as a couple. I don’t think having the other authors name present would be an issue for me, just want to avoid the glaring reference.

Some of the mindfulness type practices seemed silly even to me, but when I listened to The Whole Brain Child which goes into the anatomy of the primitive brain and how our anger is there but when you start analyzing you force a different part of your brain to work, it really pulled it together for me. I actually did explain this to my husband before and how it would make sense it can work for us as well as kids. His response was “that sounds hard”. Anyway, I’m trying to get through MindSight by the same author to see what more I can glean from it too.