Feels so unbearable

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Sorry for taking up so many spaces...

I just thought about how my spouse is treating me, I don't deserve to be treated like garbage... I moved all around the world for her, setting up house everywhere we went, put my career on hold, bent over backwards and still I'm being treated like she never even knew me. I've read the books and the post, and I understand the disorder but it doesn't make my heart any less. This just feels so unbearable... What do you do when it does become too much for your heart to carry?

[DogMom2019]

Sorry for taking up so many spaces...

I just thought about how my spouse is treating me, I don't deserve to be treated like garbage... I moved all around the world for her, setting up house everywhere we went, put my career on hold, bent over backwards and still I'm being treated like she never even knew me. I've read the books and the post, and I understand the disorder but it doesn't make my heart any less. This just feels so unbearable... What do you do when it does become too much for your heart to carry?

[Cat Familiar]

The easy answer to say, but the hard answer to do—is Radical Acceptance.

She is who she is. What is troubling is wanting her to be different than she is. There’s no getting around grief. You have held out hopes that she could see you and understand you, and she has, at times. But through her behavior, you see who she is, with distance separating you.

I know it’s hard to accept. And there’s a lot of loss attached to coming to acceptance.