He won't look at me

[Sunflower123]

So, my pwBPD is still splitting. He has been spending a lot of time in his office. Today he had to come out for a while to do something in the living room. I tried asking him a question and he answered, but literally hid his face behind his clothing and turned away from me. He also lightly stomps his feet while I'm speaking to him. I also noticed that in other small interactions recently he will not make eye contact with me and likes to turn the other way when speaking to me or talk from a different room. It makes our interactions awkward. He never really did this much in the past, although when he's splitting he usually likes to communicate by text/email only even if we're in the same place.

 Does anyone else experience something similar with their partner? Is this common with BPD or could it be something different?

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[Bella2798]

I've experienced it too. I actually never got to live with my partner although we've been together for a long time and we're now long distance, but we used to spend a lot of time at his house when we were near. And in splitting episodes he had, I remember he let me in, but went to do whatever he was doing before, even kinda talking to me but he used to look everywhere except me. And I remember talking to him from another room, it seemed he felt safer that way. I can even remember a time when I went to the room he was in to hear him better and he got mad over this. :-)

[PineapplePenguin]

My partner does this. When she has calmed down she says it's because she's ashamed of how she's acting but can't control it. I don't know if it will help others but I know for us, after she said this, if I validate her feelings she will become more comfortable and be able to look at me and we talk through what she has just gone through.