I’m confused

[Depression = 72% of members]

I’m starting to get used to being treated badly and accused of being awful and doing things that aren’t true. It’s confusing Bc I know he doesn’t mean it once the rage is over but in the moment it’s real and I feel numb and run over by a truck at the same time. Honestly I’m still in shock after 5 years that I don’t know what to do or how to react in a mature and respectful manner. I get shaken up and cry and just ask him to leave me alone until we can calm down. And then once that happens we move on but I don’t think I can do this for much longer. It’s piling on and I’m losing myself along the way.Any advice or anyone relate with this?

[Cuore]

I’m starting to get used to being treated badly and accused of being awful and doing things that aren’t true. It’s confusing Bc I know he doesn’t mean it once the rage is over but in the moment it’s real and I feel numb and run over by a truck at the same time. Honestly I’m still in shock after 5 years that I don’t know what to do or how to react in a mature and respectful manner. I get shaken up and cry and just ask him to leave me alone until we can calm down. And then once that happens we move on but I don’t think I can do this for much longer. It’s piling on and I’m losing myself along the way.Any advice or anyone relate with this?

[RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING]

RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members are welcomed to express frustration but must seek constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

[Cat Familiar]

Sorry to say, this is pretty typical with a partner with BPD. It’s exhausting. 

In a nutshell, the only way to thrive is to develop a thick skin and to implement some of the Tools you will find at the top of this page.

Pro tip—when they rage, they cannot be reasoned with. Best to do something entirely different on your own and get out of their space.