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it has been a long while since I was on this site, things still go well for me but with bumps. my husband and I been married 26 years hard to believe, he was diagnosed with BPD at least I was told he never went through the testing, so what about 26 years I have been dealing with this disease. . over time with boundaries and tools set he did get better.
this past year he had surgery on his back he had a slip disk and so he has been on workman comp for almost a year. he finally had surgery and a year later back at work. back to complaining about things at work, the people he works for. for two years now he has been on this pill for his back suppose to help his nerves in back but also anxiety boy was that a change in his attitude.
he is a truck driver and. halls heavy carpet he is 59 now .
HE wants to leave his job, not because of back but because of the people he works for but he is too young to retire but won't apply for other jobs . he just wants to bitch taking it out on me. been so long since we have been in this situation I almost have to read about BPD again . so here I am. Hoping all this is just a bump and we'll go on. but for every one merry Christmas.
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Hi Wanda, it's always nice to hear back from long timers
Glad that you had a stretch of time where things were more ok for you and your H.
When he was on the meds for his back and nerves, and there was a change in his attitude, was that a good change or a bad change?
How have the last couple days been for you? Any chances to take a break when things get very BPD with him?
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The meds my husband is on for his back helps his nerves in his back and also his attitude for the better .
Now he is back to being ok just had a few bad days . He is back to work after a year that was a little bumpy but seems to be ok now. We are back to living life . Christmas went fine .
We are going on 26 years of marriage and I’ve been dealing with this BPD just as long .he is undiagnosed .
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