Is this the beginning of a recycle attempt?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hi all. Hope your all doing ok

After last week where i posted about my ex approaching me to say "hi" and my slightly sarcastic reply back. A couple of incidents have happened again this week that have got the old alarm bells ringing and the red flags a'fluttering

In the early hours of the morning earlier this week, i received reports from friends that my ex had apparantly reported on facebook that she had been attacked by her upstairs neighbour. Tbh i thought nothing of it,i did wonder if it was another attention seeking stunt. But the following evening my ex approached my sister in the street (ex was out drinking again ,surprise surprise) she told my sister she needed to speak to me to tell me some news,but not to worry as "it's good news" (?) my sister,usually a tolerant person,was not happy that she was trying to get through to me and gave her a rather firm "f**k off".

At 3 am i woke up for some strange reason,only to pick up my phone and at that moment a text came through from my ex. She told me that her neighbour had attacked her,that she was scared and that the neighbour had threatened my life as well as hers (strange as this neighbour met me for just 30 seconds well over three months ago,and he knows full well we are not together anymore)i kind of shrugged it off and decided not to be scared

Yesterday i was at my workplace. She did 4 deliberate walkpasts of my work again within the space of two hours (i did notice at one point she slows her pace down when she passes my shop)Unfortuanatly at her 4th attempt i was outside having a cigarette (if theres one reason i need to quit its this ) and didnt notice her approach. I turned and ended up looking her straight in the eyes. She kind of gave a nervous smile,mouthed the words "hi,You alright" and waved. Sadly my conscious got the better of me,and i raised my hand and mouthed Hi back

My question folks is this,is this the start of a re-engagement process by her?or am i perhaps over thinking this here? she has gone from hating me for the past month,painting me black to all who would listen,to now actively trying to gain my attention once more.Any advice her would be much appreciated as im now feeling rather nervous

[Tom P]

Hi all. Hope your all doing ok

After last week where i posted about my ex approaching me to say "hi" and my slightly sarcastic reply back. A couple of incidents have happened again this week that have got the old alarm bells ringing and the red flags a'fluttering

In the early hours of the morning earlier this week, i received reports from friends that my ex had apparantly reported on facebook that she had been attacked by her upstairs neighbour. Tbh i thought nothing of it,i did wonder if it was another attention seeking stunt. But the following evening my ex approached my sister in the street (ex was out drinking again ,surprise surprise) she told my sister she needed to speak to me to tell me some news,but not to worry as "it's good news" (?) my sister,usually a tolerant person,was not happy that she was trying to get through to me and gave her a rather firm "f**k off".

At 3 am i woke up for some strange reason,only to pick up my phone and at that moment a text came through from my ex. She told me that her neighbour had attacked her,that she was scared and that the neighbour had threatened my life as well as hers (strange as this neighbour met me for just 30 seconds well over three months ago,and he knows full well we are not together anymore)i kind of shrugged it off and decided not to be scared

Yesterday i was at my workplace. She did 4 deliberate walkpasts of my work again within the space of two hours (i did notice at one point she slows her pace down when she passes my shop)Unfortuanatly at her 4th attempt i was outside having a cigarette (if theres one reason i need to quit its this ) and didnt notice her approach. I turned and ended up looking her straight in the eyes. She kind of gave a nervous smile,mouthed the words "hi,You alright" and waved. Sadly my conscious got the better of me,and i raised my hand and mouthed Hi back

My question folks is this,is this the start of a re-engagement process by her?or am i perhaps over thinking this here? she has gone from hating me for the past month,painting me black to all who would listen,to now actively trying to gain my attention once more.Any advice her would be much appreciated as im now feeling rather nervous

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

Yep.

[fromheeltoheal]

With borderlines, think attachments.  Attachments are everything to someone who believes they don't exist without at least one, so a borderline will test to see if an attachment is still in place, and any emotion from you, good or bad, will confirm an attachment.  And a month ago doesn't matter; that emotional storm has passed and we're in new weather now.

Best thing is to decide what you really want, and if you don't want to be with her, don't be.  And then there's the mental illness part: best to not communicate with her at all, but if she's stalking you or whatever, the best thing you can do is act bored, disinterested, unemotional.  When she gets it that an attachment is no longer in place she'll run off to the next shiny object and leave you alone.

it would be nice to sit down and have an adult conversation, but you know if that's possible with her or not, although once you've detached, healed and gotten on with your life, you might end up having compassion for her, because it's a very tough road they walk.  Take care of you!

[Infern0]

Either that or she wants to reconnect and put you in friendzone/backup

It's upto you what you do but you know you are going to get very little honesty from this person,  it's hard to know her motives