qcr - My dh actually thought that it was a good idea. She lives in a bad neighborhood, and he does not want her and my gs living there. However, I remember the last time we wanted to move her out of apartment. I definitely do not want to move her out permanently. Or, I mean living with us, on permanent basis.
I told her, that if she did stay with us that she would not be able to have any friends to come visit her. That she will be a guest in my mom's house. She said that she realized that.
I really have mixed feelings about it. I really don't want her staying with me. I was thinking that it may be easier; however, I am really re-thinking that. I never visit her at her apartment because I really do not like her neighborhood. And, I can not leave my mother for too long. So, that is why I was thinking that it would be easier if she was here. I think that I prefer that she have a jail sentence, instead. I warned her that would be consequence if she was caught driving without a license. She always shooshed me and told me that I was jinxing her. The judge said that he was giving her house arrest to take care of her child. But, if she violates it, then she will go to jail.
I admire you, and your strength. It seems that your dd has come so far.
lbj - No my dd does not live with anyone. She works at a restaurant as a server. She works past my gs bedtime. During, her so-called custody week, I have him, most of the time. She has him on her days off during "her" week. She does not have bf.
I asked her today, how much she owes the phone company, and she told me $100. Perhaps, they will work with her on that.
I do have my mother, and babysit my gs every other week. And, I think that I have gone off the deep end. I caved into my dd's harrasment for phone because I was so tired. And, the night we got her iphone, I could not sleep. I cried because I let it happen. How foolish I was to give in. Her phone was on its last leg, and it was going to expire at midnight. But, she did not "need" an "iphone". I hope that I am able to get back to the cell phone store, tomorrow to return it. I will let her get "a" phone, that is just a phone, and downgrade the plan.
I fell for the stupid line, that she and my gs have been put on the back burner, since my mother and brother were sick. Seriously, I do need my head examined! I did not take the time out and re-vist the Lundberg bible. So, I let us down. Otoh, I must give credit to my dh. He has been trying to do everything, too. He helps by visiting with my brother, babysitting while I was with my brother, cooking, giving my dd rides, and even did my laundry, today. I wish that he would have let my laundry alone.
He did not give it any tlc, and I have an ink stain that was washed and dried. I really appreciate all that he does. He should be ready to blow, though. He has been doing too much.
