is she re-egaging or just testing the waters?...

[lacole]

my old best friend (BPD), with whom I had a falling out with little by little over the past 2 years and then a final falling out with about 8 months ago sent me a text out of the blue this past Saturday.

We were together at a sports event, she was about 15 feet away from me and rather then come over to say anything, she sent me a text instead? I thought this was rather odd as I was close enough to her to approuch me, but then as I have thought about it, Im thinking it was a passive/agreesive move to test the waters. And of course, no mention of the fall out, her text was like nothing ever happened!

Her text was very nice, wishing me a nice new year, etc. We texted back and forth for alittle bit after I left the event.

What is going on here?

[Newton]

lacole... .  I think it's all too easy to be suspicious that all their motives have dark intentions for us... .  

Perhaps she was fearful of your response, so a txt seemed more appropriate to her?... .  

The key emotions behind this disorder are rage, shame, fear... .  possibly this time it was fear?

[lacole]

Im sure she is fearful... .  I havnt said a peep to her or given her a glance in almost a year.

Just not sure what she wants now? Yes, Im suspicious... .  

[Newton]

If you are comfortable having contact with her... .  could you txt her and ask her what she wants?... .  

Her response may ease your suspicions... .  or confirm that those suspicions are well founded... .  

You have control over her contact... .  try not to ruminate too much about the "what if's"... .