Welll, he took the dog

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

In another post there was a great deal of discussion about our dog and who should care for her. My soon to be x (after me taking the dog without his permission) allowed me to take her for four days while he was out of town at a conference.

I have just returned from giving him back the dog and at that time I asked if I could have visitation with the dog. The soon to be x said no unless I want to take her while he is out of town for the interview at the end of this month or she can go to a kennel. Otherwise I am not allowed to see the dog. Period.  No visitation. He says it is his dog and he will do with her the way he sees fit.

I knew this would happen. The punishment continues. The revenge continues. I cried like my heart was breaking. As I am now.

I will never see our dog again.

I told her how much I love her before I took her up to give her back to the soon to be x. I knew in my heart that the h would use her to hurt me. I told her good bye. And to be a good girl. That I love her.

The h should be served this week by the sheriff and we have our first preliminary hearing on Feb 2.

Mink

[minkmink]

In another post there was a great deal of discussion about our dog and who should care for her. My soon to be x (after me taking the dog without his permission) allowed me to take her for four days while he was out of town at a conference.

I have just returned from giving him back the dog and at that time I asked if I could have visitation with the dog. The soon to be x said no unless I want to take her while he is out of town for the interview at the end of this month or she can go to a kennel. Otherwise I am not allowed to see the dog. Period.  No visitation. He says it is his dog and he will do with her the way he sees fit.

I knew this would happen. The punishment continues. The revenge continues. I cried like my heart was breaking. As I am now.

I will never see our dog again.

I told her how much I love her before I took her up to give her back to the soon to be x. I knew in my heart that the h would use her to hurt me. I told her good bye. And to be a good girl. That I love her.

The h should be served this week by the sheriff and we have our first preliminary hearing on Feb 2.

Mink

[Rose Tiger]

I'm so sorry you are hurting.  :'( I wish he would of compromised.  Big hugs to you, hang in there, ok? 

[DreamGirl]

I'm sorry that he's not being very cooperative.  

I also still think you've done the right thing.

I also think you will see her again. He said that you could have her at the end of the month.  

Is this an issue that you want to address in court? Do you want the dog?

Just because he said no, doesn't make it so, minkmink. He just disagrees and it may very well be because he knows you want it. My husband has a way of wording requests like this, so it sounds like he's doing his ex-wife a favor rather then the other way around.

~DG

[minkmink]

Well, it is times like these, when as a small bit of doubt sneaks up and whispers in my ear... .  maybe, just maybe we could try again... .  that I know no matter how hard, no matter if I have to work a $10 an hour job, no matter that I will never have a peaceful, beautiful home with friends and family as a married couple, no matter that I may be alone (without a man) for the rest of my life, no matter that I loved this man who says he is my husband, no matter that I may have to sacrifice our dog to this man that will not care for the dog as she should be, I know that nothing I can do can make better his angry, vengeful heart. So I must leave this marriage and hope and pray that I still have the guts to make my life a life of hope and peace. And I also pray that I am forgiven for having to leave our dog behind and to have brought so much more pain to this already terribly painful place.

Amen

Mink

[BentNotBroken]

I mentioned before I had to leave my beautiful, loyal, sweet-hearted Rottie behind to protect my son from the BPDex. I know it hurts, but you can always fight it as part of the divorce settlement. I don't have that option. And based on the CE report I just read, my son is going to need lots of protection.