Scary day for DD tomorrow

[qcarolr]

Asking for you to keep DD26 in your thoughts and prayers tomorrow as she sees her probation officer at 8am. She knows she could go to jail for missing all her probation requirements in January. She is having a big acne breakout and has a large, painful lump in her groin. I am taking her to urgent care this afternoon to get that checked out. Keep breathing and validating and loving her. All I can do.

And hoping gd7 is adaptable today to go to urgent care. Thankful for angry birds on my kindle today.

qcr  

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[griz]

qcarolr:  I will keep all of you in my prayers and pray that all works out. Breathing, validating and loving her... .  wow so beautiful.

Griz

[peaceplease]

qcr,

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.         May the end result be to her benefit.  Sending love and hugs.

   

peaceplease

[oglobaith]

Will be praying for you tomorrow.   

[lovesjazz]

I believe things usually turn out for the best. Youve done all you could and more. Prayers your way!

[cfh]

qcarol

I know this is a big one for your ds and whole family. I'll be thinking of you and sending all positive thoughts your way.

[cfh]

qcarol

oops I meant dd... .  I'm so used to writing ds!

Keep breathing.

[lbjnltx]

Prayers for your dd... .  that His will be done and she knows His love.

 

[qcarolr]

So good to know all my friends are here for me and my family. Gd did not want to waste her afternoon in urgent care as neighbors were actually available to play outisde - beautiful day. So DD said she would take a nap and wait for dh to get home. He got home early - had early dinner - now DD wants to just chill on sofa with family before her PO appt tomorrow. Then go the urgent care after that. She is not in 'too much pain' if she does not sit up

She gets to choose - offered the changes that she can wake me in the middle of the night for - fever, increase in pain, redness, swelling, nausea/vomiting,etc. The first aide training kicks in. She rolls her eyes -- but knows I am here if she needs me.  Feels good to have my love reciprocated (this is my new word - reading about attachment and 'brain-based parenting - new topic coming when I am done with books).

Thanks again, qcr  

[peaceplease]

Thinking of you, today.  

 

peaceplease

[qcarolr]

DD seemed ready to go to jail in car this morning - PO said get it together so I don't have to send you back to court, and come see me every two weeks instead of monthly until things are back on track. She went to town to see her friends while I was at work, came home, put together her backpack and is back in town tonight. Our house is too restictive for her I my assumption, and she needs to be with her friends.

She has read my texts about no house guests (ie. overnight) and no pot smoking inside by anyone. She told me they were stupid texts; I went about my chores without much comment. When we met gd's bus today gd was having a fit about no playdate with her BFF today (it is on for tomorrow), and DD made a comment like 'grandma won't let me have friends over either'. I mummbled to her - visitors are ok just not overnight.

I am in a better place to not budge on these two boundaries - the pot smell makes me have an allergic reaction ( smoke or growing plant, there is a grow warehouse next to my office at work and it was really really strong today, even in the parking lot. they must be harvesting - medical mj). She has seen my infecected eyes and heard my hoarse voice and coughing - she knows this is real for me. I am glad she seems to be accepting this boundary - at least for now. And she had a visit the past couple nights from a friend who left by 9pm.

Yet this is all basically venting here by me. I am so sad for her pain and lonliness right now. And accept that she has to work through it in her own way. And she is not alone in town. Will appreciate my own space the next couple days with dh and gd.

She does seem to have an abscess infected on her belly - it started draining today she told me as she held the heat pack on it. Told her to let me know if she wanted antibiotics for it and I would take her. She has had a lot of MRSA infections in past year when under stress. Hope this is not another of those. Maybe she just wants to suffer this pain too - takes her mind off the emotional pain. I can't force her to get treatment for any of this.

So seems life goes on, more of the same for DD. I am OK, just need a good nights sleep. Thanks for listening.

qcr  

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[peaceplease]

Glad that you are okay.

 

peaceplease