Hi All
My uBPDw has started seeing a T for her anger. Not sure if T is BPD-trained but my W told me yesterday that they were working on a technique called "Lifespan Integration". My W showed me this website
www.lifespanintegration.com/. Anyone familiar with this?
To date my wife hasn't opened up to me about her anger issues, so I see this as a fairly significant step, though we havent discussed anything about her past before - not sure if this is her tentatively wanting to discuss, I dont want to press the issue but want to support her if she is committed to this process. There is likely some sort of unresolved childhood trauma, as my W has previously mentioned possibility that her own mother was abused.
Is anyone else familiar with this as a method of dealing with BPD? I think the T is trying it out with a view to using it every so often. I dont think its a long term intensive process like DBT. I should underline that BPD has not been discussed between us.
Also, any general tips for encouragement/supporting SO's during therapy?
I was prepared for leaving yesterday due to my wife's violence, and now this seems like a genuine cry for help on her part.
Feeling conflicting emotions now of keeping myself self safe, while wanting to help my wife. She was curled up in bed last night like a scared child. Very upsetting. Not sure I could handle the guilt if I left under these circumstances.
So confused.
S
