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One of the hardest things I have had to endure through this struggle with my DD is the loss of my job at the beginning of the year. I am a single parent and am losing everything. Are there other single parents out there? Any suggestions of work I could do from home? I do not want to lose my home, have my utilities cut off while I am dealing with my DD I cannot even leave the house because I am frightened she will rob me blind if she knows I will not be home.
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Hello!
I'm not a single mom but I can only imagine how difficult it is. We had to take all of our valuables and lock them up. We bought a safe that was hidden in our closet and we put a lock on our bedroom door.
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StrugglingMom76,
I was like a single mother, as my husband was overseas for 3 1/2 years. I understand how very difficult your situation is, as I, too, was alone. Very different. I found the authorities did not take me seriously, unless my husband was home.
It is very important that you take care of your own health. Your feelings are justified. It is difficult to get the help you need and very frustrating. Think carefully about what your goals are for you, your family and your daughter.
I hope you have a better day tomorrow.
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Check for on-line telecommuting jobs. I do not know what your skills are, but medical coding and billing and medical transcriptionists are always in demand. Also editorial work, even some call centers (customer service) allow working from home.
Just be sure you check things out VERY carefully. Unfortunately, our electronic world is full of scammers.  :)o you know anyone who works from home and could recommend a reliable employer?
There are many, many options available. Just be careful.
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single mom here My heart feels for you. Can you refill in on how/why you lost your job and your dd's age.
What type of skills do you have?
How can you take care of yourself first?
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I used to work in Human Resources and while employers are still slow to take on new permanent workers my former colleagues tell me the temp agencies are booming. It would be a good idea to register with several and hopefully you could be working soon. And temp work often turns into a permanent job.
On a practical note when ds lived at home I had to lock all valuables in a location outside of my apartment. Another good place to store valuables is in the trunk of your car. That included check books, bank statements, extra sets of keys, RX's, important phone numbers... . anything that could be used against me.
Do you have close friends or family that you can talk to?
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I understand your concerns about not leaving home because you want to be there for your daughter and also make sure she does not take your valuables, but I think it would be better for you to just focus on getting a job even if it is not from home. I think the above suggestions of placing your valued items somewhere else are good. Try that while at the same time focusing most of your energy on finding employment. Remember: you need to take care of yourself first before you take care of anyone else.
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The problem I'm finding right now is because we're in the thick of things I have court dates drug screenings things I have to do every single day that revolves around my dear daughter that's going to prevent me from getting a job because I have to take time off of work
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