EX BPD has started drinking.

[jonnyz]

HI, I just learned that my ex girlfriend who has BPD and ptsd has been going to friends house andhas started drinking.  I gues it started with just alittle wine and has gone to six pack of beer.  Last Sunday she did not come home after her shift which ended at 11:30 p.m.  Monday morning she was suppost to take her oldest daughter to school an hour away.  She got home at 7:30 a.m.  Daughter said she  had her hair all mess up and was shakey. possible still drunk.   I guess htese people are having sex too.  One ask her if she wanted to be a sister wife.    She made her daughter later for school.  The crazy thing is she has no history of drinking.   I'm worry she my be puttingher self in great danger.  She is on probation and is not suppost to be near booze.   I 'm also worry these friendare using her and will harm her.  She also has quit taking her prescription meds.  She also uses sleeping pills.  I don't know what to do. She kick me ou tof her life in Noverber 2012.   I though about tell her father becaus eshe uses his car to go to work and to go to these people place.

Also she has put up a myspace page using my email, andfacebook photo.  She has really gone off her rocker since kicking me ou tof her life. THe hole is getting deeper.  plus her Duaghter is goin into military  in june Which my Ex does not want. Also means her daughter willnot be around.  I'm very concern for my Ex's safe and wellbeing. I think she is going to hit a brick wall shortly.    What to do?

[Clearmind]

jonnyz, she is an adult and unfortunately we need to allow them to live the life they want to lead. She needs to hit bottom to get any sort of help.

As for kiddo - its the fathers responsibility to step in here.

Are you undecided about this relationship or wanting to detach? How is it you know about her whereabouts? Are others telling you?

[Somewhere]

Make sure the kids are taken care of, and get out of the way of the wreck that is coming.

At least with your ex going (back?) to jail, she will be taken care of there, for a while. 

[jonnyz]

jonnyz, she is an adult and unfortunately we need to allow them to live the life they want to lead. She needs to hit bottom to get any sort of help.

As for kiddo - its the fathers responsibility to step in here.

Are you undecided about this relationship or wanting to detach? How is it you know about her whereabouts? Are others telling you?

There is no relationship anymore. I just really good freinds with the daughter. I just see a big train wreck coming.  I would like to be a supportive friend.

[Clearmind]

J, I am sorry to hear about that - consider posting on the leaving board.

Does the mom know you have a r/s with the daughter?

[Somewhere]

Might want to write a letter to CPS (or whatever they call Child Protective Services, or some such in your area) and the local school, as well.

[jonnyz]

J, I am sorry to hear about that - consider posting on the leaving board.

Does the mom know you have a r/s with the daughter?

YEs.

[jonnyz]

Might want to write a letter to CPS (or whatever they call Child Protective Services, or some such in your area) and the local school, as well.

She already lost ths kids  ayears ago. The Daughter is 18. Will be leaving for Boot camp in June. So calling Cps would do know good. I'm just afraid my ex will end up dead or in jail.   My Ex is on probation for driving though her second to last boyfriend garage and damaging his truck. Which she does not remeber doing it.    daughter tells me she has a run of man in and out of her life since her devorice in '07.

IF she get s caught with alcohol it is jail for her.  I'm worried cause she just went from  not drinking at all to drink every weekend with the new boyfriend and she keeps six pack or 12ozers in refrigerator.  She is already unstable with out the alcohol.   I guess I should not worry about. I'm no ther boyfreind anymore. she was  big part of my life in Highschool.   I don't want to see her die cause of this or put in jail for long time.

[jonnyz]

jonnyz, she is an adult and unfortunately we need to allow them to live the life they want to lead. She needs to hit bottom to get any sort of help.

As for kiddo - its the fathers responsibility to step in here.

Are you undecided about this relationship or wanting to detach? How is it you know about her whereabouts? Are others telling you?

  Dad is a social path BPD. daughter does not like him at all.