She always contacts me first

neesieden

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She always contacts me first

« on: May 07, 2013, 07:02:18 PM »

She always contacts me first!

Another non specific message today, three weeks ago was the last time!

Realised that today would be our Fifth Year Anniversary! I wonder if she remembered or if the text was just coincidence today!

Haven't replied by the way! I must stay strong!


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LosingIt2

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Re: She always contacts me first

« Reply #1 on: May 08, 2013, 10:01:26 AM »

Go on a nice walk and listen to some good music. It helps.


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Re: She always contacts me first

« Reply #2 on: May 08, 2013, 10:05:58 AM »

Excerpt

if the text was just coincidence today!

Planned FOR SURE

Stay strong!


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neesieden

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Re: She always contacts me first

« Reply #3 on: May 08, 2013, 05:46:34 PM »

So now tonight just chillin, a missed call and then a text message!

"What's apped you but you haven't replied. Which of course you don't have to... .

Hope your ok

Grrrrrrrrrr


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tuum est61

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Re: She always contacts me first

« Reply #4 on: May 08, 2013, 06:03:00 PM »

Before the last two posts, you last posted in late October last year - saying you broke up in June.

What has been the history of contact the last 6 months. Did you get back together at any point? How frequent has the contact been?


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neesieden

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Re: She always contacts me first

« Reply #5 on: May 09, 2013, 03:09:11 AM »

We saw each other on and off up until New Year's Eve, that was the last time I saw her in person, apart from driving past her in the car. A few days into January a mutual friend asked her what she was playing at with me and to stop messing me about, she made her decision after that disagreement that we shouldn't see each other as she doesn't know what she wants.

Since then she had texted me on my birthday, when she bumped into my son, went mental texting and calling me when she passed me in the car, I did speak to her on the phone during that crazy moment which was in march, we had one night which we text for about fours hours. That was three weeks ago... .

I'm ok, it's just crazy that after being on this forum and most days looking on here that I knew it was coming soon, it's made me more aware of her patterns over the last few years.


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Re: She always contacts me first

« Reply #6 on: May 11, 2013, 05:15:20 PM »

Another 'hello' text tonight with lots of ?

Can anyone give me some advice what to do?


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tuum est61

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Re: She always contacts me first

« Reply #7 on: May 13, 2013, 03:12:51 PM »

What do you want to do?


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