My BPDso keepss posting photos and locations with her new beau on facebook

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

What a night.  My exBPD... . she flew to another city three days after we broke up to sleep with another guy... . continues to post photos of her and this fellow on facebook; where they go, kissing etc.  I was considering trying to get back with her, but finally took the bait and sent off an email saying that I no longer wanted any contact.  We had agreed to stay friends. Previously, I had been careful in our prior interaction but her cruelty has just got me nuts.

Why does she not see how cruel it is to post such pictures or broadcast where she goes with this guy after only a couple of weeks.?  This women I love is really damaging me.  Any feedback on this?

[Hurtbad]

What a night.  My exBPD... . she flew to another city three days after we broke up to sleep with another guy... . continues to post photos of her and this fellow on facebook; where they go, kissing etc.  I was considering trying to get back with her, but finally took the bait and sent off an email saying that I no longer wanted any contact.  We had agreed to stay friends. Previously, I had been careful in our prior interaction but her cruelty has just got me nuts.

Why does she not see how cruel it is to post such pictures or broadcast where she goes with this guy after only a couple of weeks.?  This women I love is really damaging me.  Any feedback on this?

[jmc8899]

If your ex was truly happy, she wouldn't feel the need to post public pictures of her and her new guy.   Don't check her Facebook because she will only post the "happy" pictures.   She will have the same issues with this new guy, she is not a new person.   

[Mr Bean]

My ex BPD also wanted me to be friends with her after she cheated and dumped me for another guy. I still accepted till I found a message in her fb inbox that showed she sent a message to this guy first while we were still in a relationship. After that I did something to her fb, wrote in he fb wall that she is a cheater till all of her friends knew.

Luckily I gone nc cos she put her photos with this new guy everywhere like she is showing off to everyone she just got a new guy. She is 48 for fuxxk sake. But she acted like a kid. When she got married in a restaurant, she acted like she is so in looveeee with this guy, sitting on his lap, hugging, kissing etc. Making me wanna vomit now.

The moral of the story, just keep doing NCand ignore!

[whatisthetruth]

dude - get the hell off facebook man.

cut ties bro

[Hurtbad]

I need facebook for work.  But you are right.  I am switching to a fan page and blocking the links to her.  Thanks.

[HazelJade]

Hurtbad, I've read a couple of other posts of yours and I do feel for you. I went through the very same thing.

It's so damn painful, the most painful thing (for me) being the feeling to have been thrown from heaven into a nightmare, and no matter how much I could think of the reason, nothing made sense.

After many, many months I have an answer for the FB thing, at least: it's called "window dressing". About this, I'm certain now. Don't fall into the trap. I agree with JMC, true love doesn't need all this. The more she's showing off, the more she's reacting and not acting.

Sending you much strength and courage.

[Clearmind]

When you go looking you cannot blame the other person for finding something you don't want to see!

[Vanillaradio]

  Block, delete, etc. Then fill the void with some healing for you. Take some new classes in something you wanted to learn, got to some lectures on something you are interested in, join a sports team, volunteer with some great orgs... . join some support groups, plan a weekend trip with friends even someplace within an hour away... . go embrace LIFE... . soon this one who brought you such suffering and negativity will be just a bad memory and a lesson learned that you can then share the strengthen and help others. BE GOOD TO YOU. You did nothing wrong. BP sucks. So count yourself blessed to have gotten free.

[Mr Bean]

Yeah like other said, block her fb or delete her. Delete her phone numbers etc. my ex even deleted my brother as a contact in blackberry messenger. I just put a status update in my bro blackberry and somehow she thought it was my blackberry. She just deleted him since am being painted black and i have done something that made her really hate me.

[raindancer]

again about facebook... .  

it used to be religion and politics that caused the most grief in society, now it's facebook.

it's not worth the aggrevation.

keep your sanity - delete her, block her. take care of yourself.

do everything that VanillaRadio said.