He's agreed to help, we will see...

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hey there, my H is BPD, though hasn't been formally diagnosed. It's like reading my life story what I've seen on here. My husband recently agreed to see someone "with me". If you read my introduction post it will explain my situation. But basically we will have been married 2 years this October and have a one year old. I have a 7 year old from a previous marriage. I didn't know what in the word was wrong w/my husband for about a year and a half then started researching some things. At first I thought bipolar, but BPD explains him to a T. As I mentioned he's agreed to get help, though I'm not even sure he knows what he has. I talked about it to the therapist we will be seeing briefly so at least she has an idea of the situation. My H made the comment today that we might only need to see her a couple of times... . hmm. We will see... .

[Jeansok]

Hey there, my H is BPD, though hasn't been formally diagnosed. It's like reading my life story what I've seen on here. My husband recently agreed to see someone "with me". If you read my introduction post it will explain my situation. But basically we will have been married 2 years this October and have a one year old. I have a 7 year old from a previous marriage. I didn't know what in the word was wrong w/my husband for about a year and a half then started researching some things. At first I thought bipolar, but BPD explains him to a T. As I mentioned he's agreed to get help, though I'm not even sure he knows what he has. I talked about it to the therapist we will be seeing briefly so at least she has an idea of the situation. My H made the comment today that we might only need to see her a couple of times... . hmm. We will see... .

[Vanillaradio]

  I am so glad, you found the forums and that your BP is agreeing to help. Sounds like you are already doing so much research. Excellent! Education is imperative so you can fully understand BP and the long road of recovery. Buckle your seat belt, it may be a bumpy ride and it is no quick fix but there is hope for remission. Dr. Marsha Linehan, the creator or DBT, is in a wonderful video on YouTube called, "Back from the Edge." I found it really helpful. Eventually, I had my BPDh watch it as well.

One note, and you will see Dr. Marsha mention it in the video, (she is the creator of the DBT therapy for BPD) she says success depends on a therapist who truly understands and is trained in BPD.  Also, see what may be available for you individually. You will need a supportive, safe place of guidance and perspective.

Wishing you all the best! Stay hopeful and learn, learn, learn.

[Jeansok]

Thank you so much!