It could be that the judge is wanting to put some of his PA training to use.It may be a technique he learned during training.It certainly can't hurt and if nothing else,he might not take the GAL's recommendation.
The therapist is a good one to have in his corner.A GAL's recommendation is usually rubberstamped by the judge from all I hear,but I just can't see one totally removing the child who's been in his custody for 9 years and just giving over to mom.
The GAL being a man,and mom being a woman,probably played a large part in that.He could be a white knight GAL and I'm sure she gave him the sob story.
The GAL's original recommendation was that all three kids move in with BPD mom. BPD mom only really wanted DSD so DH kept the boys. One thing we know for sure is that this 2 1/2 year old recommendation will have to be revisited, and it is a sure thing that the boys will not be moving in with their mom. Nothing was ever legally settled because DH was horrified by how unstable BPD mom's life continued to be (and, bc BPD mom can't hold a job, she could not afford to hire an attorney to settle it).
Yes, I believe he was and still is playing the role of a knight in shining armor. I had to bite my tongue when he was so concerned about the possibility of DSD going to a new therapist for reunification therapy; he wasn't concerned about her moving 6 times in two years, living with three different men, but he is worried about her changing therapists?