Where do you keep your books on this topic?

[Evalon]

I ordered some books a few weeks ago on how to deal with people with BPD (one was on how to prepare if you need to get out of a relationship - recommended on this site), but then when my husband started being nice again (part of the cycle), I felt so scared and guilty about it that I actually threw them away, so my husband wouldn't find them.  I feel like this is part of the control he has on me by switching from nuts to nice.  I have started seeing a therapist and she gave me the assignment to re-order one of the books on a kindle app on my phone, but usually apps show up on our family ipad too, so I am worried my husband would find my book when he uses the ipad.  Is there another way to read books online?

Thank you for any suggestions.

[Surnia]

I can imagine how you feel with it, I had the same problem with my exh.

I had my books at my workplace and only the one I read well hided at home. I was more comfortable to read them on the e-reader, but I had my own.

What about your own little Ipad?

[Linlu53]

I would like to get some ebooks as well. Especially the Family Guide to borderline. But when I go to buy it it seems it is only in paperback. I can't let a book like that lie around, either. My h does not read so even if it were on our shared iPad he would never open the kindle app. Any place I can find that particular book?

[Surnia]

To Linlu

A h who would never open a kindle app is a advantage 

You will find the Family Guide Book for kindle reader here.

[Linlu53]

Found it! Yea!

[SadWifeofBPD]

After my mom witnessed one of my H's rages, she sent me a book about dealing with difficult husbands (we didn't know h had BPD then).

I knew that H would have a fit if he saw it, so I changed the cover.  I put a "chick lit" paper cover on it. 

Later, if found that hiding books between the mattress and box springs to be a good hiding place. 

[waverider]

Mine are on the mantlepiece in the lounge room. Took a while to get the courage to that. But my partner is at a stage now that she is aware she has BPD, and is greatful that I am doing things to help our RS.

[Evalon]

Thank you for the suggestions!  SadWife, what a brilliant idea to change the cover to a chick-lit book!  I love it  

I ordered a tiny Nook from Barnes and Noble (didn't want to do Kindle, since I think it's connection to Amazon and we use the same account there to order books and a lot of other things.  I haven't received it yet, but hopefully, it will be a good way for me to catch a few minutes of reading here and there if I am in the car waiting to do school pick-up or something.  I plan to keep it in a compartment of my purse.  I don't have a workplace to store book in since I am home with my kids.

[Ring of fire]

I have a friend who took the "walking on eggshells" book  and had the book rebound  with a fake cover and side. He is a lawyer and I believe the fake cover is posing as a legal boring book,one in which a  BPD would never pick up. I thought that was a  pretty clever thing to do.

[waverider]

I have a friend who took the "walking on eggshells" book  and had the book rebound  with a fake cover and side. He is a lawyer and I believe the fake cover is posing as a legal boring book,one in which a  BPD would never pick up. I thought that was a  pretty clever thing to do.

Just as long as you dont put the fake cover on upside down