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« on: June 28, 2013, 05:31:54 PM »

She is now having her sister call me and asking me to move, the house is in her name, i put the down payment on it , furnished it. i caught her lying and now I am being kicked to the curb. I am a mess right now... . i have no where to go... .
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« Reply #1 on: June 28, 2013, 06:07:58 PM »

That sucks :/ You should get a lawyer involved.
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« Reply #2 on: June 28, 2013, 09:23:15 PM »

Im sorry to hear about your situation. I would also suggest you get a lawyer. Emotional crap is hard enough to deal with but now its getting into legality matters. I know it sucks because you had plans on moving in together but shes putting you in a bad position. Get a lawyer, remove all the furnishings, and tell her you want the down payment.

Can you stay with friends or family?
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« Reply #3 on: June 28, 2013, 09:53:32 PM »

Law school professors teach that as soon as someone starts living with another, under the same roof as the leaseholder, in any type of  partnership, even without a formal agreement, and the one with the lease, wants the other to leave, they still have to go through a formal eviction process. This usually takes six weeks. Some  police don't even know this when they are asked to throw somebody out. They are suppose to ask the question, "How long have you been living here, and in what capacity?" In the meantime, you have to start packing, and talking to social service agencies in your area such as salvation army, catholic charities, housing authorities, etc., if you don't have any income. BPD's can be extremely cruel. If she was a normal, decent, person, she  would help set you up,  instead of kicking you when your down.
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« Reply #4 on: June 29, 2013, 04:21:49 PM »

Law school professors teach that as soon as someone starts living with another, under the same roof as the leaseholder, in any type of  partnership, even without a formal agreement, and the one with the lease, wants the other to leave, they still have to go through a formal eviction process. This usually takes six weeks. Some  police don't even know this when they are asked to throw somebody out. They are suppose to ask the question, "How long have you been living here, and in what capacity?" In the meantime, you have to start packing, and talking to social service agencies in your area such as salvation army, catholic charities, housing authorities, etc., if you don't have any income. BPD's can be extremely cruel. If she was a normal, decent, person, she  would help set you up,  instead of kicking you when your down.

Agreed. She has to give you notice of eviction. Laws vary by locale.
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« Reply #5 on: June 30, 2013, 01:15:58 AM »

Gather your proof of payment, receipts, etc that document what you've invested in the house.  Keep it safe and duplicated in places she can't access.  You may or may not get your money back eventually, but the odds to get an order for her to reimburse you are better with documentation.

And as the others said, seek local lawyers for specific legal advice.  You may have certain rights to live there but you need to stay within the law and - very important - avoid being alone with her which might aid her to frame you for false allegations of DV, harassment or stalking.

In another post you lamented being unable to find closure with her, that she kept lying and denying.  Sadly, that's typical.  If you keep trying, she'll keep you running in circles and getting nowhere, she might even make complaints and allegations to make you stop.  The point?  Closure is very unlikely to come from her, closure is something you'll have to give yourself.
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