Re: My story.

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I'm really unsure what to say right now.

My ex contacted me by text saying on Friday saying, "I know you hate me, but sometimes we cant do what we want, but have to do what we have to do"

I didn't really know what she was saying,so i replied and said, "what's going on, and be honest with me, or else leave me alone"

She said 'would you rather follow your heart, or save someone's life?'

This is in reference to her current BF, the suicidal guy in his early 40's.

I asked her what was going on, and said did he threaten self harm?

She avoided the subject, and said nice things about me. I replied if she needed to talk, or wanted to help to let me know. She said I couldn't help her, and she was sorry for contacting me etc, and said lots of more nice things, and to strangely ended by saying, say a little prayer for me... .

I am worried about her, as she is naive, and seems to be stuck in an awful situation right now. This guy has threatened taking his own life before, even when we were going he caused endless problems. As i'm in another country, i tried my best and said that she needed to tell his family, and that it can't be her issue to solve his problems, and it's manipulative behaviour. She said he had no family, only her, and she couldn't turn her back on him, especially if he could take his own life.

This changes a lot of things, and I'm not going to get involved, as she has got herself into an awful situation.I have said if she needed my help, or wanted to talk to let me know, however I'm worried about her. And if the reason she left me is because this guy has been threatening to kill himself if she ever left him, then that's horrible.

I guess most people will say, avoid avoid AVOID! Her issue, she dug her own hole etc, it could be a cry for attention, but strangely, i believe her. As this guy is very unpredictable, and she seems to be very afraid of him. She lives on her own, and i have no idea if she has told anyone. I still care about her, and I don't hate anyone.

[Punchbag]

I'm really unsure what to say right now.

My ex contacted me by text saying on Friday saying, "I know you hate me, but sometimes we cant do what we want, but have to do what we have to do"

I didn't really know what she was saying,so i replied and said, "what's going on, and be honest with me, or else leave me alone"

She said 'would you rather follow your heart, or save someone's life?'

This is in reference to her current BF, the suicidal guy in his early 40's.

I asked her what was going on, and said did he threaten self harm?

She avoided the subject, and said nice things about me. I replied if she needed to talk, or wanted to help to let me know. She said I couldn't help her, and she was sorry for contacting me etc, and said lots of more nice things, and to strangely ended by saying, say a little prayer for me... .

I am worried about her, as she is naive, and seems to be stuck in an awful situation right now. This guy has threatened taking his own life before, even when we were going he caused endless problems. As i'm in another country, i tried my best and said that she needed to tell his family, and that it can't be her issue to solve his problems, and it's manipulative behaviour. She said he had no family, only her, and she couldn't turn her back on him, especially if he could take his own life.

This changes a lot of things, and I'm not going to get involved, as she has got herself into an awful situation.I have said if she needed my help, or wanted to talk to let me know, however I'm worried about her. And if the reason she left me is because this guy has been threatening to kill himself if she ever left him, then that's horrible.

I guess most people will say, avoid avoid AVOID! Her issue, she dug her own hole etc, it could be a cry for attention, but strangely, i believe her. As this guy is very unpredictable, and she seems to be very afraid of him. She lives on her own, and i have no idea if she has told anyone. I still care about her, and I don't hate anyone.

[mamachelle]

Punchbag,

It's hard to evaluate the seriousness of all this when your exGF is being so cryptic.

What do you think is going on? I am having a hard time understanding.

Can you contact authorities or her family in the other country to check in on her?

mamachelle