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she never gives up
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I have tired everything to stop the contact with my exBPDg/f. its come to the point im doing crazy sh!t. ive block her in every way but she finds ways to contact like making new facebook page leaving notes at my home when im working.
she messaged sunday of this week on f/b and then call Monday after her new b/f had been put in jail again... . he got out next day.
we had same old talk miss me loves me hates him and where she lives now, wants to make a plan for us to be together but will not act on the plan after making it.
im starting to feel better and move the contact is not so hard on me these days as I kind of know it will be coming every week to ten days.
now heres my crazy part ive burnt all things she left behind even the pics of her kids... . I hate myself for that.
I went as far as to make a fake face book page and tell her new b/f whats going with her and things I know for sure shes done along the lines of cheating on him already... . I know that will blow up in my face. I didn't do it in hopes of breaking them up. I know she will know it was me and be pi$$ed at me.
im not looking to get back at her, I know she out of control and its like dealing with a child. its more im looking for a way to kill the r/s for good to be able to know shes not going to try again. maybe the facebook thing will do it.
what does this say aboutme what is wrong with me?
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simply - to put it bluntly - you are involved yourself. Stay away from the BF - its no wonder she is still contacting you. BF is likely telling her you are contacting him - so what is the different?
Let go! We need to set an example.
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Re: she never gives up
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Quote from: simplyasiam on August 29, 2013, 02:55:13 PM
what does this say aboutme what is wrong with me?
It sounds like you are still very emotionally connected to your BPDex.
Be honest with yourself. It's probably the hardest and must painful way to get through things but it will usually steer you in a direction that is consistent with your inner values.
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some things come to mind.
1) the addiction to her and how hard it is to break free of it
2) maybe you really want to end it but know/or are afraid you're not strong enough (yet) to enforce NC so you're trying to force HER to be the NC Enforcer
3) or maybe it's something else? b/c you opened with "I have tired everything to stop the contact with my exBPDg/f." but then you went on to detail quite a few things you are doing that actually are keeping contact going w/her. can you see that? the talking? the FB messaging? creating a fake FB? contacting her BF?
does any of this resonate with you?
i can see it so clearly with you yet it's so flippin' foggy for me with my xBPDgf
icu2
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