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heronbird
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« on: September 17, 2013, 02:49:24 PM » |
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I found it on TARA website very interesting
mathew Warren
Mathew Warren
Suicide
April 5, 2013
Rick and Kay Warren,
talk about the
loss of their son , Mathew,
to suicide, BPD and depression
Piers Morgan TV
Monday Night September 16, 2013
into the light
Borderline Personality Disorder
Coming Into the Light
Rick and Kay Warren
will talk about the loss of their son, Mathew, to suicide on the Piers Morgan show
this Monday night, September 15, 2013.
The whole hour will be dedicated to Mathew
and his search for help for his depression, Borderline Personality Disorder and suicide.
An interview with People Magazine will be conducted Saturday night and on the newsstands next week.
fund raising
TARA asks,
Who killed Mathew Warren?
An open letter to all those affected by BPD
Why did Mathew see so many doctors who did not help him? Why did he get so many incorrect diagnoses, so much unhelpful and iatrogenic medication and treatment? Why did he receive so much ineffective treatment that he ultimately lost faith in any treatment and was left feeling completely hopeless. Why didn't anyone help this loving family sooner,before Mathew
was so desperately hopeless. Why didn't anyone tell them how to help him
over 20 years as they noticed the problems, saw them worsen and searched for answers? Why can a person get lethal means on the Internet? Why did Mathew , who felt so much shame, never get the help he needed to recognize shame and deal with it? Why don't we understand the terrible impact of shame on people's lives and know how to counteract it?
Why do we have a mental health system that ignores Borderline Personality Disorder and calls it depression or anything else and therefore treats it inappropriately? Why isn't more research on BPD done? Why isn't more evidence based treatment available? Why are families so stigmatized, isolated and suffering as well without access to real help... .stumbling upon TARA or Overcoming BPD, A Family Guide, usually by accident... .And, more importantly, what are we all going to do about this.
I have been involved with Kay Warren and her family for a long while and have seen her struggles on a daily to weekly basis. Did her work make a difference? Mathew is dead... .does that mean Kay failed? No... .she heard Mathew, she understood him, and she did all she could possibly do to help him. He knew that. However, Mathew hit the BPD wall.
It is a devastating wall that others can only imagine. Parents and loved one's need to face the fact that we are fighting a disorder that gives the sufferer very little respite.
For those of you who have met and know Kay, I am sure you have thought how could this happen to someone as special as Kay, a woman who is so dedicated, humane, knowledgeable and courageous, a mother who is so willing to learn and to change as Kay? Kay is truly a remarkable woman who has won my utmost respect and devotion. I know she tried everything a mother could try. She went above and beyond what most people could do. Now she and Rick are going even farther by sharing their BPD journey and loss with all of you
Borderline Personality Disorder has got to come into the public light...
It is time. None of us can fight this disorder by ourselves. We need a system behind us, an army of compassionate, well trained clinicians, and we need programs to teach families what to do in crisis... .what to do to help effectively... .how to listen and really hear... .to accept their loved one as they are. We need ER's and hospitals that respect people with BPD and do not reinforce or increase their shame. We need a new Manhattan Project to build a Borderline Disintegration Bomb... .and we need it now.
Too many other Mathew's are out there, on the precipice of death, waiting for help to come and help is not on the way. Borderline Personality Disorder is in the closet. It needs light and air. Maybe Mathew Warren was sent to us, maybe Mathew Warren gave us the ultimate gift by putting his face onto Borderline personality Disorder.
All of us at TARA mourn with Rick and Kay and thank them for helping all of those suffering with BPD.
With much love
Valerie Porr
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