His self destruct mechanism overrides everything else

[toomanytears]

We've got a wonderful family and he's finally secured him dream job.

What's not to like?

Everything, if you are emotionally disregulated... .his self destruct mechanism has gone into override. He's left our home and moved into a horrible little flat which he hates. I'm in pieces by how things have escalated so quickly.

Do you think the BPD in my H makes him feel he doesn't deserve all the good that has come at last, after all our hard work?

Does anyone have any insights or similar experiences?

[Surnia]

Toomanytears

a big, big 

This are bad news, I feel with you.

Take some deep breaths.

Could it be that the dream job means some stress for him? Like if he can achieve the expectations or not?

May I ask you, are you working with a therapiste for yourself?

We are here for you, Toomanytears!