Yesterday she wants a divorce. Today she loves loves loves me.

[Rees]

This is part of the cycle. When is it time to say enough is enough? What about my children. I'm feeling totally trapped. I think I'm depressed.

My therapist who I have been seeing for about a year now told me to read stop walking on eggshells, which I'm slowly getting through and although it's been enlightening, and I feel strangely relieved in knowing and understanding what it is that I think I may be dealing with, I'm also completely shocked.

I don't think this has completely settled in yet, but the more I read the more completely obvious it becomes to me that what I am dealing with and have continued to deal with is my wife's suffering from BPD.

I don't know what I want anymore and it scares the hell out of me and I'm afraid of what a divorce will do to my young family and our beautiful, innocent children.

I'm seeing my therapist again on Monday.

[GreenMango]

It's not an easy decision when you add kids and all the others things that make up a marriage into considering a divorce.

How did the therapy visit go?

[Vindi]

you have to do what is best for you, and your kids. I know of soo many couples with kids, who did end up getting divorced. It is sad, no one wants it to happen, but its not fair if you stay in a marriage, just for the kids.

Yes, she may be flip flopping on the divorce one day... .loving you the next... .etc... .

Does your wife have a therapist, or is she willing to seek out marriage counseling to save your marriage?